George gets a glimpse of what life would be like if he’d never have been born. He sees all the lives that he’d touched. And through that vision, he learns what to hold on to and what to let go of. It’s a Christmas story, not because of the religious themes or the Christmas setting, but because the glimpse of what if is a gift.
2016 has been hard, and a lot of people I know are hurting for various reasons this year. So I wanted to take a break from writing about history to send a message out into the universe in the hopes it will find the person who needs it most.
Right now something awful has happened. And you aren’t sure how to go on from here.
I’m sorry. I’ve been there, it stinks.
So take the time you need for you. Cry when you feel like it. Don’t listen to people who tell you to cheer up. That you should get over it. Cry until your grief washes away with your tears and you feel hollow inside.
Then get up. Get up every time you just want to lie there. Get up when you feel like there’s no point. Get up in spite of depression, and trite platitudes and people who mean well, but say things that hurt you anyway. It’s going to be hard. But there will be moments when it gets easier. Those moments will get closer together. Then they’ll be days.
And whether those days happen tomorrow or next week or five years from now, it’s ok to let go of the past if you want to.
Maybe you’ll always have the pain, but it will be a smaller and smaller part of you. And sooner than you think, you’ll be able to breathe around it.
Right now you’re walking in a forest. And it’s dark all around. But it’s sunny just over the canopy. And sooner or later you’ll leave the trees behind and stand in the sun.
From here, you’re going to go forward and make decisions. Those choices will sooner or later lead to something good. And when you look back, you’ll see that you appreciate where you are even more because of what you’ve been through now. And that you wouldn’t be where you are if not for what you’re going through now.
But take all the time you need to get there. You don’t have to start until you’re ready.